Muslim Families

A Muslim family is where all the members of the family pray five times a day. One may ask why do we have so many family problems? Does your family give zakat, pray five times a day, give sadaqah, read Qur'an or read hadith daily? If not then how are you expecting life to be perfect? Life can never be perfect anyways but one can atleast be at peace with having very little in their lives. But most commonly our Muslim families are living a life of finding happiness in this Dunya. They all love Dunya so much they can't help it. They grow up all their lives earning to build a happy house and raise their children to become bug successful businessmen or doctors to bring money at home.

A real Muslim family is where there are boys of the house who understand the Qur'an and have Memorized it.  They understand the difference between wrong and right, haram and halal. A Muslim boy is he who respects his father and loves his mother deeply. He is not reminded to help his parents when he grows up but he is grown up with a dream to take care of tnem as he already knows it. He is given the freedom to learn how to deal with money financially with his own independent decisions and corrected when he errs.

A Muslim house is where a women is respected and treated with dignity and tenderness. She is educated with high Islamic education with secular education as well.  She is not brought up with the norm that women are maids of the house.  Rather she should be believed that she is the care taker of the house.  She is taught the proper values and rights of being a women.  She is someone who is taught Qur'an and hadiths with understanding and not made to believe that this is only the work of a man. 

But sadly, some Muslim families have a lot of expectations from Allah wanting Him to provide everything for them without them giving any huqooq to Allah or huqooq AL ibaad. They don't follow hadith, they are involved in biddat, they are following major kinds of shirk their children are involved in illegal relationships and alcohol and drugs, and they don't have any purpose for making their aakhirat any better. They are only running after making their Dunya successful yet they have actually forgetten working for the success of the aakhirat, And on top of that they want Allah to do everything good for them. They depend upon the intercessors to save them in the aakhirat without doing any good deed. 

Allah says in the Qur'an, "Or should man have whatever he wishes? Nay! To Allah belongs the Last (hereafter) and the First (world). How many are the angels in the heavens; yet, their intercession can avail none unless Allah gives them permission in favor of whom He wants and is pleased with. " Surah An Najm ayat 24-26

This ayat shows that if Allah wills then only He will allow our intercession, if Allah is pleased with us, then only He'll let the intercessors intercede for us. But we are in the delusion of not doing any good deed and hoping the intercessors to save us in the aakhirat. How deluded! Allah is the One Who will recompense for us not the intercessors. 

Our families might not be that bad but there is always some room for improvement in terms of akhlaaq and what not.

We all need to give our families dawah, do not ignore their major sins, do not let them dwell in their own misery, help them, keep giving them dawah, keep stopping them, do not ignore. You will be questioned. Change yourself and bring them to change as well, slowly but surely. In sha Allah 

May Allah protect our families and make us a source of guidance for our families and bring eachother close on the path of real success. Ameen

Is blaming the media the answer?

Blaming the media has become one of the easiest things we do online especially when we know media isn't on our sides.

Media has and will always be one of those things of our generation that has made one point clear, that they will do anything to defame us and they will do anything to hide the real oppression caused by their people whilst they call Muslims terrorists without any clear proof or without a valid reason. 

We as muslims can't blame media for everything especially for not reporting the sad news of the shootings of the three Muslim young adults at Chapel Hill, North Carolina. Why? Because we know they aren't on our sides and they never will be.  So what's the point? Moreover, we are our own media. We have our own social media. We can create awareness through those.  But is that the only solution? To create awareness of the oppression and humiliation we are facing as a Muslim Ummah?

The only thing we, as a Muslim Ummah need to do is, to get up at night and pray tahajjud. Get up and pray fajr in the masjid and wake up. Wake up from your delusional worldly life. Get back to the tawheed. Remove shirk. Stop worshipping anybody or anything be it money, job, love, children, career and entertainment, more than Allah. Devote your life to Allah. When will we realise Allah will only give us victory when we return back to Allah??

How weak are we to be mesmerised into the plot of shaitaan? For How long will we not pray? For How long will we remain in haram relationships? For how long will we keep disobeying and disrespecting our parents? For how long will we not give zakat or do hajj? For how long will we keep hatred and grudges in our hearts for our beloved Muslims and humans in general? For how long will we have the worst manners? Remember Allah said that the plot of the shaitaan is the weakest. Then it is YOU who is responsible. Let's begin the change now. Do not respond to hate by hate. Do ehsaan. Be patient over the humiliation we are facing as an UMMAH. And have taqwa of Allah, FEAR ALLAH BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING. Fear Allah.... This is the only way we can truly gain the victory of Allah.  We wouldn't have to plead and cry for the disbelievers to report for us or have sympathy for us. 
Allah won't change our conditions when we aren't even willing to change ourselves. 
May Allah have mercy of the souls of the three Muslims, Deah, Yusor and Razan. May Allah forgive all their sins and keep their charity mission running to give them immense reward even in their Graves. Ameen. 

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WHAT TO DO WHEN SOMEONE DIES?

Assalamualaikum Waramatullahi Wabarakaatuhu

Many children, women and men are dying everyday. They are not only dying, they are been killed. Our hearts sympathise and ache from the loss of beautiful kids that were killed by the terrorists in the latest attack in Peshawak. All the deaths that were caused this year made me realise how close we all are to the Day of Judgment.
Nonetheless, it hurt me when Pakistani children were brutally killed by terrorists. It also hurt me when Syrian children terribly suffered from the chemical attacks and it also hurt me severely to see Gazan children dying everyday under bombed houses, hospitals and schools. Moreover, it hurts me when anybody is killed unjustly.
Not a single innocent murdered person has died a less painful death. Their deaths are equally sad for me. Allah is ever Watchful of their oppression and mass murdering of innocent lives. He remembers while we forget. Let us not forget what's our mission. Turn to Allah. Be Muslims, not Pakistanis or Indians. We are Muslims, we support one another. We pray for eachother. We help one another. Let us all stand firm in the deen of Allah. Allah will honor us greatly and Allah will give us victory. Just turn back to His religion... Be just with a Muslim and a non-Muslim. We are humans at the end of the day. So be humans...
Moving on to the next discussion is when a person dies or when a group of children die or anybody die as a matter of fact what should be our amal?
1. Be patient
2. Accept the qadar of Allah. Remember that death is only from the permission of Allah and if He wills for anything to happen, it happens. We can't blame Allah and be angry with Him
3. Pray for that dead person's maghfirat
4. Console and sympathise with the deceased's family. Say encouraging words to them. Let them cry and express their pain and ask them to be patient and trust Allah
5. You can perform umrah and hajj with their names or complete their missed fasts. But only the blood relative can do these to actually benefit the deceased.
6. Take heed from these deaths. Remember even you will die one day so now it's time to prepare for the aakhirat and start changing.
7. Revenge with blood to blood with equality is allowed but with no injustice. But forgiving is more close to Allah and the reward is due on Allah in aakhirat.


But What should one not do??

1. To Start a biddah in groups and read Qur'an for the deceased. Reading the Qur'an is for the living and what you read won't reach the dead. It will increase your good deeds but not theirs. What will reach to the dead are three things, “If a human dies, then his good deeds stop except for three: a Sadaqa Jariah (continuous charity like digging a well, building a masjid etc), a beneficial knowledge (like teaching Qur'an to others so when you die and others learn from what you taught you get the reward too) , or a righteous child who prays for him.” – (Sahih Muslim).
2. To Read tasbeeh or durood for forty days. These are all biddah and rituals which our beloved Rasool sallalahu alaihi wa sallam never did even when his own beloved companions passed away or were killed terribly by the kuffar.
3. To not Feast around and bring lots of food in the house like as if it's a party going on.
4. Do not curse the dead or expose their sins rather recollect all their good deeds.
5. Do not try to seize the wealth of the deceased's inheritors in an unjust manner by not giving the inheritance to the respected rightful people.
6. Do not slap yourselves, hit yourselves or cry loudly by hitting your chest or cursing Allah.
7. To wear white or black clothing by imitating the Christians and Hindus.
8. To start a trend in the same of the dead like the black day which began recently, the two minute silence and the candle lightnings in groups. This is not from our religion.
Please protect yourself from all these biddahs in the name of good intentions. If our good intention is not according to the sunnah then that deed is nullified. Our religion is so easy yet we love to put ourselves into hardships by making matters fard on ourselves which were not ordained on us.
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A MISERLY PERSON

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Who is a miserly person? 

A person is miser when he withholds back his money, ilm or any kind of help that he can benefit others with, from people. He hates to see his accomplishments in others which is why he doesn't help others with his provisions. He hates spending or helping others because he is in the fear that he may lose what he has and therefore he collects his money niggardly and doesn't spend it till he dies with a fortune that would be used with his family anyways. 

Abu Sa'id radiaAllah anhu reported that the Prophet Muhammad sallalahu alaihi wa sallam said, "Two qualities are not found together in a believer: miserliness and bad morality." (Reported by Al-Bukhari) 

Muslim reported that he, sallalahu alaihi wa sallam used to say, "O Allah! I seek refuge with You from cowardice and miserliness!"

Salman Al Farsi radiallah anhu said, "Whenever a generous person dies the Earth says,"O Allah, please forgive Your servant because of his generosity,' and whenever a miserly person dies it says,"O Allah,  please deprive this servant of Paradise, just as he deprived Your servants of the provisions You gave him in the worldly life.' "

Question is, are we one of those who are stingy and miserly?? And at which department are we usually stingy? When sharing food? When sharing clothes? When lending money? When giving other compliments? When replying to the Salam to the Prophet Sallalahu alaihi wasallam after his name is mentioned? 

When the matter of decision comes to you and the other person, whom do you chose to feed or clothe, yourself or others? 

What is the reason why we don't spend our money? In fear of losing it? Remember money is all from Allah. We were once poor before we became rich. We were nothing before we became something.  So learn to share. Learn to help others with whatever good that you may have in yourself. 
If we are still stingy and miserly in the slightest way, then we need to remove this quality by doing more sadaqah and by remembering that our wealth can be snatched any second as it doesn't belong to us. It belongs to Allah. But if we don't change this quality then remember consequences are very bad. 

May Allah protect us from being miserly and grant us the tawfeeq to he more generous and helping.  Ameen :) 

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INVITING TO SALVATION AND FORGIVENESS

Many of us are leading our lives without wondering what's going to happen. What's going to happen when we die, what's going to happen when we lie in our graves, what's going to happen when our families, children, loved ones, money, possessions leave us behind, what's going to happen when we are resurrected, what's going to happen when we'll be handed the book of our records and deeds whether in our right or left hands.. What's going to happen?

If you have ever thought of this before, then I invite you to seek forgiveness. Seek Forgiveness from Allah no matter how big that sin is and no matter how small that sin is because Allah is The Most Forgiving and The Most Merciful. Do not despair in the mercy of Allah. Do not think of Allah as He won't forgive. Because He will... If your intentions are sincere and if your forgiveness is real and if you try not to repeat that sin again. Then sure HE will. And even if you do it again, seek forgiveness from Allah again and again. 

Astagfirallah, Astagfirallah, Astagfirallah!

Read, read the Qur'an and hadiths to know who your Rabb is and to lead a better life.

Save, save yourselves from the sins and prohibited acts because those are the best of deeds. 

Seek, seek forgiveness more than 70 times a day because we need it more than our Rasool Sallalauhu Alaihi wasallam; who was pure without sins and still he sought repentance.

Try, try to do something with your time in those good acts that will benefit you in your Hereafter.

Remember, remember that this world is not even worth a drop of an ocean.

Realize, realize that this time and this day won't return and that this day is already recorded, so what have you done?

Pray, pray five times a day not because Allah needs it but because it's you who needs.

Glorify, glorify Allah because every single creation on this Earth is glorifying Him endlessly and without any rest. 

Follow, follow our Prophet alone and do what he said and don't do what he forbade,

Don't, don't follow your desires or the innovators or non-believers or even compromise your deen because these are the dangerous paths. 

Give, give whatever little you have to people you know and to people you don't.

Be, be grateful for every single blessing you have because many don't have what you have and would kill to be where you are.

Mend, mend your broken relations with kith and kin so that all the good deeds you have done, be accepted by Allah.

Control, control your tongues from futile talks and from words that'd hurt others or  dishonor them behind their backs or even say a word of shirk which could become a source of Hell for you.

Consider, consider Shaitaan as your enemy and, consider all the traps that he plots as a plot you’d remember to stay away from.

Find, find a reason to live and love your family and find a way to be a source of help for them.

Invite, invite people to salvation and to forgiveness and invite them to Allah and to Our Prophet.

AND

Fear, fear Allah wherever you are and whatever you do, publicly or privately, because 

He, HE is in knowledge of every little single thing that you do. 

Think, think, Repent, repent...

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