FAITH & TRUST IN ALLAH TO CURE ALL YOUR TROUBLES

Every single moment you rejoice is a moment of gratefulness, gratefulness to your Lord. It is the ajar (reward) of your patience that is rewarded with rejoice and happiness. Patience with expectations and hope gives us a life that is better and more beautiful because you Trust Allah more now. Many people face problems like Financial, relationship troubles, sickness, studies, jobs etc. To get rid of them, the first and the foremost thing every Muslim need to do is have strong faith in Allah. Trust in Him like you never trusted anyone before. That trust comes with some conditions. How can we believe that He is The One to answer all our prayers and cure all our problems?
First, You need to believe that He is the One and Only God and He has No partners. You need to beg of Him ALONE. Ask help from Him alone. No alive man, dead man, Jinn, any superstitious thing or belief can help us. And why will they? Did they create you in the first place? NO!
Whenever you have a problem or don't have a problem, your first thought should be that Allah is The One who will help me and He is The Greatest of All and The Able of Everything. 

Ways to Solve them:
1. According to the Ayat from surah Al- Baqarah, Verse: 153

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ اسْتَعِينُواْ بِالصَّبْرِ وَالصَّلاَةِ إِنَّ اللّهَ مَعَ الصَّابِرِينَ

O you who believe! seek assistance through patience and prayer; surely Allah is with the patient

The tafseer of this ayat shows us that we need to seek assistance from Allah by being Patient first and then by praying. So patience is the key to every success and problem.
2. To have a life which will satisfy you more is to make intention, strong intention, to get up at night and pray Tahajjud. Even though all my prayers get accepted Alhumdulillah, but the prayers of Tahajjud will speed up the acceptance process and the feeling of satisfaction will be undeniable. It is really good for those who don't have the resistance of waiting so much. The Tahajjud (night prayers) must be prayed secretively and not in the hope of someone seeing you pray. This is a very intimate matter and time between you and your Rabb. Also, never disclose anyone about your ibaadat. Hide your ibaadah as much as you can. These are the ways one can feel contended with oneself feeling that they have made Allah happy.
3. Try to zip up your mouth from complaining about your problems. The best way is to simply not talk about your problems with anyone until they have been solved by your Rabb. This is because it creates barriers between you and your process of Salvation. People are one of our biggest weakness and those people don't do much good. Only Allah does. So be with only those people who talk about Allah and are the most positive people of all. 
4. Recite and do morning and evening Dhikr. Those who don't do the evening and morning dhikr are considered to be Gaafil. These dhikr azkaar are very powerful and Allah keeps you safe throughout the day. Allah says, "Remember your Lord in yourself humbly and
fearfully, without loudness of voice, morning and evening (âsâl). Do not be
among the heedless," (7:205)
Once you try these things, I guarantee you that everything will be alright. Your Imaan will also have a boost and you will finally start living for Allah and not for people or this materialistic world. Those who live for Allah will have peace and those who live for this world will be dissolved in the sorrows and grief of this temporary life.

Answer the Questions in the comment section below.:
1. What is your way of happiness?
2. Is there any advice you would like to add up to this article which has helped you the most?

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"DEALING WITH PEOPLE" SERIES- Part 2

Assalamualaikum! Ramadan Kareem to All the Muslims around the world! So Sorry for wishing late. 

How is Ramadan going on with you all? I hope its going great and I pray that Allah's blessings and mercy be on us this Ramadan and the months after it! Ameen.

Today the topic is Dealing with people. Last time I mentioned about "Dealing with people with patience and smiling." If you haven't read that please check it out.  

ACCORDING TO PEOPLE

Allah created all the human beings differently. No one is the same and you can't expect everyone to be the same. We all want to be friends with those who we have something in common with. That is very usual. But What about those people with whom we have nothing in common with or maybe somethings are common but majority is clashing with differences? How Do we deal with such people? 

We all know we have to be kind and polite with everyone. But the question is, are we? If we are not kind or polite with them, What is the reason behind it? Why do we behave the way we behave? InshaAllah we'll try to discuss it with some hadiths and Quranic verses.

The Main people we are not good to is our parents. Basically, because there is a generation gap and our thinking don't match with each other. We need to understand the fact that they are our parents. They have gone according to us their entire lives. Whatever we wanted they have given us not thinking about themselves much. They have sacrificed so much for us we can't even repay! We seriously need to understand that if we want to be good to them. Remember all the favors they have done for us so we always look at them with respect and obey them.

One of the things I learned is that once a person hits the age 50 or above, you can't change ANYONE! Not even your parents. And why should we? All of a sudden we have become righteous and now we want everyone to become perfect all of a sudden? Things don't work this way. We know how much patience improves life and all our matters. 

To deal with our parents, we need to go according to them. Not everything, but the things you know your parents might get angry or upset about. At least try to go according to their wish and their happiness even if it pierces you in the heart! Every child has to put some effort to make their parents be proud of them. Those kids are the one who always compromise their needs over their parents'. If you know your dad would be angry by serving him a cold tea, why do you take the risk? Make sure its hot. If you know your mom gets pissed by your dirty room, then don't! Why take the risk? 

Also do something from time to time to make them happy by doing something they like. Something charitable. Every good thing with a good intention is accepted by Allah. This is mainly for the daughters, because we have very limited time to fully obey them and make them happy. (By limited I don't mean you are gonna die but you'll be married soon and have your own family to look after)

There are some parents who constantly criticize their children. It could be on how you have always failed them, on how you dress or look, what you do ETC. All you got to do at that situation is to zip your mouth, don't back answer and just say what you think is right in a polite manner. I am not an expert in giving dialogues, you can figure that out. I know how much worse the situation would get if you back answered. Do not even roll eyes, act fearless, or stand unaffected by anything. This is misbehavior!!!

Abdullah RadiAllah anhu narrated: Allah's Messenger Sallalahu Alai hi wasallam said, "A momin is not the one who taunts, curses, speaks indecently or abuses others." [Ibn Jabaan, Kitaab Al Imaan: 192]

Some of us are very talented and have a great convincing power. That is a really blessed gift from Allah. One who has it must wisely use it! :)

Allah the Exalted says in Surah Al Zumur-Ayaat 10: "Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in full, without reckoning". 

Imagine, the reward will be given completely without even any questioning! What a great privilege that is!  SubhanaAllah!

These things are definitely very hard to do because some of us were not brought up like that. It is hard for me too to be good to everyone sometimes. Allah The Exalted says in Surah Al Baqarah: 83 "And Speak good to people".

We have friends who don't like certain things which we like and there is an individual opinion in it. Appreciate them for who they are and what they like. Same thing goes for siblings. You can't bombard all the things you like on them and force them to like it. Do not expect others to do things according to your mood or your life. You do it according to others. Don't worry about others constantly. Forget about what people are doing wrong. Think of what you are doing wrong. You can always advice politely. Its just human nature when some people have different opinions and views than you, they start contradicting with you. But Islam doesn't teach that. All Muslims have to accept the differences of their friends, relatives and siblings, get over it and treat them with justice because Allah made every soul differently.Not everyone is naturally similar to us. Just accept the facts and move on. 

Sometimes, making a big deal out of small things makes a big fuss. That is why majority of the divorces are on small silly issues like "she is not pretty", "He didn't buy me my favorite pair of shoes", "he watches t.v all the time and doesn't give me attention" ETC! Some couples are together even after all the biggest hardships ever faced. The best examples are our grandparents and our parents who are still together after all these years. mashaAllah! These are the real people who are patient and trust in Allah subhanAllah wa Ta'Allah to make their future better. 

Never argue unnecessarily (only if its important and you are 100% intellect about your argument) and be harsh to others. Aisha RadiAllah anha narrated: The Prophet Muhammad Sallalahu Alai hi wasallam said, "The most hated person near Allah is the most quarrelsome." [Bukhari, Kitaab Al Muzaalim: 2457]

Abdullah RadiAllah anhu narrated: The Prophet Muhammad Sallalahu alai hi wasallam said, "Abusing a Muslim is sinful and killing him is disbelief."[Bukhari, Kitaab Al Imaan:48]

One of the things I have learned most is what you say can never be taken back and it will be either a regret  or a joy for you. Most of the Arguments I've had were verbal and they were worse than physical. They are the most hurtful and irreversible. 

Sahl bin Saad RadiAllah anhu narrated: Allah's Messenger Sallalahu Alai hi wasallam said, "Whoever can guarantee what is between his two jaws (the tongue) and what is between his two legs (private parts), I guarantee Paradise for him". [Bukhari, Kitaab Al Riqaaq: 6474]

Let us try to become a better person and a better Muslim. Forgive, be kind, compromise, appreciate and smile. Intend to do it for the sake of Allah. If you do it sincerely keeping in mind that you are doing for Allah, most of our bad habits and manners will reduce inshaAllah! :)

JazakumuAllah hu khairan for reading. I hope this helps us all. 

Take care. 

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ARAB WEDDINGS

The only reason I'm writing this is because I attended two Arab weddings this month. And believe me, I am NOT pleased!

And I will try my best not to ever go there again. It's not like I hate it or anything but I don't approve of it either. Whatever I'm speaking about is not against Arab tradition or culture.

I attended an Arab wedding in Makkah yesterday, so I had to travel from Jeddah to Makkah while getting lost in the way. Basically, spending 2- 2.5 hours in the car with lots of troubles just to attend a wedding that was NOT worth it! 

The only problem I felt was the horrendously loud music and lateeeeeeeeeeeee DINNER. why? Because of LAAAATTEEEE entrance of the Bride!! AAHHH!!

First, let me talk about the music. I understand when people put up Hindi songs or even English songs besides the fact that they know its Haraam in Islam (I am trying to cut off music from my life as well) but Arabic songs are extremely noisy and creates trauma in many people and its FRUSTRATING!! The last wedding I remember was when they hired Singers to sing at their wedding. It was a complete nuisance and very uncomfortable for many people. It was so loud, I could even see some people  blocking their hearing passage just like me. Most of the people were irritated by the music and frustrated by waiting for the bride to come and the food to be served.  Do you know there are old women and men who need to eat food at proper time to take their medicines? I am not old but I had to take my medicines too. Who eats at 3 in the morning any way? At least I ate when it was sehri in Ramadan. 

Now about the LATE BRIDE....

Let me ask you something and I need some serious answers. What was the bride doing till 3 a.m.in the morning? Where was she? Was she cooking the dinner for the guests? Or was she dipping herself in makeup from 6 p.m till 3 a.m. I mean, I need a seriously, excusable, genuine reason that could convince me as an annoyed guest! For some reason I don't want to blame the  bride, cos the brides I met were annoyed as hell too! They couldn't even smile at me properly. Their faces were tired, they looked famished and drained. It looked like as if they wanted to run away from there as soon as they could. Who attends their own wedding late, frustrated and unhappy? What could the reason be? I understand the fact that people spend so much money, time and efforts in their weddings but what is the use when you show up at 3 a.m. at your own wedding and leave after 2 hours?? Do you how much a wedding hall in Jeddah costs for a day? And people spend their wedding in that hall only for a couple of hours. That's unacceptable.

I would never want my wedding to be like that. I want my wedding to be happy despite all the Extravagance, luxury and show off. I would want my guests to mingle up with me, have fun with me and leave happy by filling their tummies. (did that rhyme?)  In short, I want it to be a sunnah Wedding. inshaAllah! :D

What I feel is, as Muslims, we need to make sure all our guests return home happy and contended. I am never gonna keep my wedding after 12. It'll be over much before that. inshaAllah!!  I request all of you who are reading this, to think about this and start preparing from now itself of how your wedding should be like and NOT how you want it to be.

Also note the fact that weddings like this have inspired Indian and other weddings too. So don't let it take over you thinking that it's something cool and fun when its not! Maybe its just me or maybe its not. But this is just a waste of time and that's the fact!

I remind myself before I remind others.

Please comment the answers of these questions below:

1) Are all Arab weddings like this?

2) How would you want your wedding to be like?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4A5ubAXSbyU

Click the link for information about how weddings should actually be held Islamically. An eye-opener by Abu Mussab Wajdi Akkari.

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"DEALING WITH PEOPLE" SERIES- Part 1

PATIENCE AND SMILING

Allah The Exalted says "and speak good to the people" [Surah Baqarah verse:83]

Patience is necessary when it comes to dealing with people.

Some people may hurt you, betray you and not understand you when you explain them. But you have to deal with them with patience. 

Its just human nature when some people have different opinion and views than you, they start contradicting with you. But Islam doesn't teach that. All Muslims have to accept the differences of our friends, relatives and siblings, get over it and treat them with justice because Allah made every soul  differently. Just because your friend is talkative and you are quiet doesn't mean you need a new friend to meet your special "quiet" needs. That's just ridiculous. 

Nowadays, people are extremely choosy when it comes to friendship, marriage, some behaviors etc. when its comes to maintaining relationships. It not like picking up clothes, food or shoes of your choice. Its people we're talking about. We need to look and observe the hearts rather than looking at few picky annoying habits. If that would have been the case, we would have been loner by now. 

We, as Muslims need to treat our enemies with kindness so imagine how are we treating our parents, siblings and relatives?? Probably worse than enemies.

Jarir R.A narrated that the Prophet Muhammad (Peace and blessing be upon him) said,"He who is deprived of gentleness is deprived of goodness" [Sahih Muslim 6598]

Be good to those who are good to you and be good to those who aren't good to you. This is the Muslim positivity. That's because we aren't pleasing anyone, we are intending to please Allah!

So smile, as it is a sunnah! How many people can you smile at when you wake up today? Probably your whole house first. Just because you smiled, they will return you a smile and a circle of smile begins. Forgive constantly and forget it like it never happened. You will have a great feeling of positivity in your life and life wouldn't seem as horrible as it sounds like. 

"Spread the sunnah by your actions if people can't understand your speech" 

-Manal

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ASSALAMUALAIKUM!

OMG!

has it been a year since I was here last?

I cannot blv that!

Well, its about time that I did something interesting..

but its so much fun when u hear about someone after a long time and u have got so much to catch up with. So many things changed last year and this year.2011 was the worst year for me. So much struggles and problems. I kinda did what my blog inspires. Endured myself with Patience. And here I am!! I study in a well renowned Madrasa of Jeddah DarusSulaim. Its all Islamic studies. I am doing a Tafheem e deen course. I am gonna talk about that later. Together with, I am doing my Bachelors of Alternative Medicines. My first year is gonna end the next month. I am busy with work. I tutor primary student kids. So yea! thats what all has been going on with me. who cares, anyways! Thats a little update about me..

See ya all later with more informatve talks next time!

Stay tuned

(I sound like a news reporter because that's how I am talking in my mind right now)

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