A Muslim family is where all the members of the family pray five times a day. One may ask why do we have so many family problems? Does your family give zakat, pray five times a day, give sadaqah, read Qur'an or read hadith daily? If not then how are you expecting life to be perfect? Life can never be perfect anyways but one can atleast be at peace with having very little in their lives. But most commonly our Muslim families are living a life of finding happiness in this Dunya. They all love Dunya so much they can't help it. They grow up all their lives earning to build a happy house and raise their children to become bug successful businessmen or doctors to bring money at home.
A real Muslim family is where there are boys of the house who understand the Qur'an and have Memorized it. They understand the difference between wrong and right, haram and halal. A Muslim boy is he who respects his father and loves his mother deeply. He is not reminded to help his parents when he grows up but he is grown up with a dream to take care of tnem as he already knows it. He is given the freedom to learn how to deal with money financially with his own independent decisions and corrected when he errs.
A Muslim house is where a women is respected and treated with dignity and tenderness. She is educated with high Islamic education with secular education as well. She is not brought up with the norm that women are maids of the house. Rather she should be believed that she is the care taker of the house. She is taught the proper values and rights of being a women. She is someone who is taught Qur'an and hadiths with understanding and not made to believe that this is only the work of a man.
But sadly, some Muslim families have a lot of expectations from Allah wanting Him to provide everything for them without them giving any huqooq to Allah or huqooq AL ibaad. They don't follow hadith, they are involved in biddat, they are following major kinds of shirk their children are involved in illegal relationships and alcohol and drugs, and they don't have any purpose for making their aakhirat any better. They are only running after making their Dunya successful yet they have actually forgetten working for the success of the aakhirat, And on top of that they want Allah to do everything good for them. They depend upon the intercessors to save them in the aakhirat without doing any good deed.
Allah says in the Qur'an, "Or should man have whatever he wishes? Nay! To Allah belongs the Last (hereafter) and the First (world). How many are the angels in the heavens; yet, their intercession can avail none unless Allah gives them permission in favor of whom He wants and is pleased with. " Surah An Najm ayat 24-26
This ayat shows that if Allah wills then only He will allow our intercession, if Allah is pleased with us, then only He'll let the intercessors intercede for us. But we are in the delusion of not doing any good deed and hoping the intercessors to save us in the aakhirat. How deluded! Allah is the One Who will recompense for us not the intercessors.
Our families might not be that bad but there is always some room for improvement in terms of akhlaaq and what not.
We all need to give our families dawah, do not ignore their major sins, do not let them dwell in their own misery, help them, keep giving them dawah, keep stopping them, do not ignore. You will be questioned. Change yourself and bring them to change as well, slowly but surely. In sha Allah
May Allah protect our families and make us a source of guidance for our families and bring eachother close on the path of real success. Ameen
