ARAB WEDDINGS

The only reason I'm writing this is because I attended two Arab weddings this month. And believe me, I am NOT pleased!

And I will try my best not to ever go there again. It's not like I hate it or anything but I don't approve of it either. Whatever I'm speaking about is not against Arab tradition or culture.

I attended an Arab wedding in Makkah yesterday, so I had to travel from Jeddah to Makkah while getting lost in the way. Basically, spending 2- 2.5 hours in the car with lots of troubles just to attend a wedding that was NOT worth it! 

The only problem I felt was the horrendously loud music and lateeeeeeeeeeeee DINNER. why? Because of LAAAATTEEEE entrance of the Bride!! AAHHH!!

First, let me talk about the music. I understand when people put up Hindi songs or even English songs besides the fact that they know its Haraam in Islam (I am trying to cut off music from my life as well) but Arabic songs are extremely noisy and creates trauma in many people and its FRUSTRATING!! The last wedding I remember was when they hired Singers to sing at their wedding. It was a complete nuisance and very uncomfortable for many people. It was so loud, I could even see some people  blocking their hearing passage just like me. Most of the people were irritated by the music and frustrated by waiting for the bride to come and the food to be served.  Do you know there are old women and men who need to eat food at proper time to take their medicines? I am not old but I had to take my medicines too. Who eats at 3 in the morning any way? At least I ate when it was sehri in Ramadan. 

Now about the LATE BRIDE....

Let me ask you something and I need some serious answers. What was the bride doing till 3 a.m.in the morning? Where was she? Was she cooking the dinner for the guests? Or was she dipping herself in makeup from 6 p.m till 3 a.m. I mean, I need a seriously, excusable, genuine reason that could convince me as an annoyed guest! For some reason I don't want to blame the  bride, cos the brides I met were annoyed as hell too! They couldn't even smile at me properly. Their faces were tired, they looked famished and drained. It looked like as if they wanted to run away from there as soon as they could. Who attends their own wedding late, frustrated and unhappy? What could the reason be? I understand the fact that people spend so much money, time and efforts in their weddings but what is the use when you show up at 3 a.m. at your own wedding and leave after 2 hours?? Do you how much a wedding hall in Jeddah costs for a day? And people spend their wedding in that hall only for a couple of hours. That's unacceptable.

I would never want my wedding to be like that. I want my wedding to be happy despite all the Extravagance, luxury and show off. I would want my guests to mingle up with me, have fun with me and leave happy by filling their tummies. (did that rhyme?)  In short, I want it to be a sunnah Wedding. inshaAllah! :D

What I feel is, as Muslims, we need to make sure all our guests return home happy and contended. I am never gonna keep my wedding after 12. It'll be over much before that. inshaAllah!!  I request all of you who are reading this, to think about this and start preparing from now itself of how your wedding should be like and NOT how you want it to be.

Also note the fact that weddings like this have inspired Indian and other weddings too. So don't let it take over you thinking that it's something cool and fun when its not! Maybe its just me or maybe its not. But this is just a waste of time and that's the fact!

I remind myself before I remind others.

Please comment the answers of these questions below:

1) Are all Arab weddings like this?

2) How would you want your wedding to be like?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4A5ubAXSbyU

Click the link for information about how weddings should actually be held Islamically. An eye-opener by Abu Mussab Wajdi Akkari.

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"DEALING WITH PEOPLE" SERIES- Part 1

PATIENCE AND SMILING

Allah The Exalted says "and speak good to the people" [Surah Baqarah verse:83]

Patience is necessary when it comes to dealing with people.

Some people may hurt you, betray you and not understand you when you explain them. But you have to deal with them with patience. 

Its just human nature when some people have different opinion and views than you, they start contradicting with you. But Islam doesn't teach that. All Muslims have to accept the differences of our friends, relatives and siblings, get over it and treat them with justice because Allah made every soul  differently. Just because your friend is talkative and you are quiet doesn't mean you need a new friend to meet your special "quiet" needs. That's just ridiculous. 

Nowadays, people are extremely choosy when it comes to friendship, marriage, some behaviors etc. when its comes to maintaining relationships. It not like picking up clothes, food or shoes of your choice. Its people we're talking about. We need to look and observe the hearts rather than looking at few picky annoying habits. If that would have been the case, we would have been loner by now. 

We, as Muslims need to treat our enemies with kindness so imagine how are we treating our parents, siblings and relatives?? Probably worse than enemies.

Jarir R.A narrated that the Prophet Muhammad (Peace and blessing be upon him) said,"He who is deprived of gentleness is deprived of goodness" [Sahih Muslim 6598]

Be good to those who are good to you and be good to those who aren't good to you. This is the Muslim positivity. That's because we aren't pleasing anyone, we are intending to please Allah!

So smile, as it is a sunnah! How many people can you smile at when you wake up today? Probably your whole house first. Just because you smiled, they will return you a smile and a circle of smile begins. Forgive constantly and forget it like it never happened. You will have a great feeling of positivity in your life and life wouldn't seem as horrible as it sounds like. 

"Spread the sunnah by your actions if people can't understand your speech" 

-Manal

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ASSALAMUALAIKUM!

OMG!

has it been a year since I was here last?

I cannot blv that!

Well, its about time that I did something interesting..

but its so much fun when u hear about someone after a long time and u have got so much to catch up with. So many things changed last year and this year.2011 was the worst year for me. So much struggles and problems. I kinda did what my blog inspires. Endured myself with Patience. And here I am!! I study in a well renowned Madrasa of Jeddah DarusSulaim. Its all Islamic studies. I am doing a Tafheem e deen course. I am gonna talk about that later. Together with, I am doing my Bachelors of Alternative Medicines. My first year is gonna end the next month. I am busy with work. I tutor primary student kids. So yea! thats what all has been going on with me. who cares, anyways! Thats a little update about me..

See ya all later with more informatve talks next time!

Stay tuned

(I sound like a news reporter because that's how I am talking in my mind right now)

Thank you for reading. Please feel free to send me the link of your blogs and comment below if you have similar views. - Invisible Identity