DO YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE JANNAH?

 What do you need to do to achieve Jannah? Is there a free ticket to Jannah? What is the price that we have to pay?
The thing is, if one ever thought of putting a price to Jannah, they simply can't! We can't believe that we are someone who can achieve Jannah by good deeds let alone achieve Jannah by bad deeds. 
We should know that the only reason one can achieve Jannah is because of Allah's mercy upon us not because we have done good deeds to achieve it. 
 
The Prophet Muhammad said: “No one’s deeds will ever admit him to Paradise.” They said, “Not even you, O Messenger of Allaah?” He said, “No, not even me, unless Allaah showers me with His Mercy. So try to be near perfection. And no one should wish for death; he is either doing good so he will do more of that, or he is doing wrong so he may repent.”(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5349; Muslim, 7042 )
 Jannah is so beautiful, subhanaAllah, that none of us are actually worthy of it. But Allah has set upon us some conditions. Conditions that we have been given so that we can enter Jannah. How convenient!
We can't hope to enter Jannah without earning for it just like we can't expect to get a house without earning for it.
Let us see some conditions that are mentioned in the Quran that we need to do to achieve Jannah. These are taken out from Surah Ar Ra'ad with detailed explanation.
 

1. Believe in Allah and His last Messenger.
2. Be a muslim as a matter of fact. 
3. We need to be among the Possessor of the intellect.They are those who believe in the Truth send by our Rabb.
4. We should fulfill all our covenants, promises and oaths made to Allah, His messenger by following his sunnah and fulfilling the promises made to people.
5. We have to maintain all our blood relationships and momin to momin relationships and also mend any broken relationships. (Are we really expecting to enter jannah without maintaining relations?)
6. We need to fear Allah with the knowledge that He is the Greatest of All and to Him alone we all have to return.
7. We should be among those who fear from our own reckoning in the Day of Judgment. Due to this fear, we should start checking our bad deeds and start reckoning for our sins in this world itself.
8. We need to be super Patient. Patience in controlling our souls from committing any sins and doing all the obligations that He has ordered us to do with sincere patience. We should be patient so much so that we should desire to see the face of Allah. 
9. Perform the 5 daily Salats with perfection at its proper times and in proper ways according to the Sunnah and sincerely for the sake of Allah and not for showing off our worship. 
10. We need to spend on others from whatever Allah provided us with. We need to pay our Annual Zakah openly so that it becomes a reminder for others to do as well. We need to give Sadaqah (charity) secretly so that we clear our intentions which is sincerely for Allah and not to show off. 
11. We should be among those who remove all our evil deeds by doing more and more good deeds.
12. We should also react to any kind of evil behavior with the most excellent of behavior. We should treat other with the utmost excellence even though they don't deserve it. Are we doing this? Unfortunately, we are only good to those who are good to us and the moment anyone mistreats us, we act just the opposite. But this is the condition Allah has set forth in front of us so that we enter Paradise.

not even close to what Paradise actually is

Allah says in Surah Ar Raa'd Ayat:29, "And as for those who believe and do righteous deeds, for them will be prosperity and a beautiful place of the final return."
So let us all try and be better Muslims at least for the sake of pleasing Allah so that He bestows His mercy upon us even after doing all those things mentioned above. After all, it is upon Allah whether He wishes to admit us into paradise or wishes to remove us from it.
inshaAllah we will be among the inhabitant of the Eternal Paradise. We only need to strive hard enough for it.

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Etiquettes of Gathering or Majlis

Assalamualaikum WarahmatuAllahi Wabarakatuhu!

We as Social human beings usually attend a lot of Gatherings. It may be a party, small get togethers, an Educational gathering (Deeni or Worldly), funerals, weddings, dinner hangouts, Political events, business meetings or even a gathering of your family. A Majlis is a Gathering that consists of more than 2 people involved in a meeting with one another regarding any occasion.
Attending gatherings are permissible and very much appreciated. To maintain ties and engage with people is also very much liked. Although there are some etiquettes of every Majlis that any educated person should know about. Knowing this would create harmony and improves our personality so much better and most of all our Akhlaq (Habitual Manners) are amended. in sha Allah!
There are majority of things I never knew we should be doing and not doing when we attend a majlis. I was really overwhelmed and inspired from it when I learned about it. I would like all my fellow Muslims to understand the etiquettes of a gathering and take benefit from it.
ETIQUETTES OF GATHERINGS:

1. The first and foremost point to remember when we are attending any gathering is: Make an intention, Whats the purpose of attending it and selection of the place to gather. If you know its halal then move on with the plan.
2. Welcome those who are attending a majlis by giving SALAM and making room for them whether we know them or not. Do not make them feel unwelcome or uninvited. [Surah Al Mujaadilah Verse: 11]
3.  Attend any gatherings on time and leave on time lest you become a burden on others.
4. Whisperings in a gathering is disliked which will create suspicions and doubts in others' hearts in a negative way. [Bukhari, Kitab Al Iste'azaan: 6290]
5. Creating another gathering in a gathering is also disliked. We should mingle with everyone in a gathering rather than making groups and getting secluded from others. 
6. Participate in the topics and discussions taking place in a conference. Enjoy and have fun with everyone. Do not seclude yourself from others. This makes others feel uncomfortable. 
7. Do not participate in any majlis or gathering where mocking and making fun of Islam is going on. Simply dismiss yourself and leave those gatherings immediately. [Surah Al Mujaadilah Verse:9]
8. The best of the majlis is that in which the Remembrance of Allah and Praise of Allah is going on. Angels pray for us and note down our deeds along with our intentions. Mercy and tranquility covers those who Remember Allah. Most of all Allah mentions about us to the ones close to Him (angels). SubhanAllah! How great. [Tirmidhi, Kitab Ad-dawaat:3380]
9. Those who leave a gathering without the mention or remembrance of Allah is like leaving the corpse of a donkey and it will be a means of remorse and regret for them. How Horrible! 
10. Try to avoid those weddings where there is no Hijab or where loud Music is played. But its better to give the duwas and greetings and leave early as possible.
11. Try to send salams and peace on RasoolaAllah as much as possible as one recitation of Durood is equal to 10 Mercies on us. 
12. Backbiting, making fun, insulting, talking obscene language and detailed personal life of husband-wife relations, disrespecting others, interference in speech, not paying attention, not letting others to speak is simply not allowed and is against akhlaq. 
13. Do not make a happy majlis into a sad one and a sad majlis into a happy one. Give every majlis their right!
14. Do not hurt in any way be it with our eyes, tongue, hands or legs. Leave a majlis by keeping others happy and by enjoying the event.
15. Do not sit and block the way that will create troubles for others to walk or sit. 
16. If someone has entered into a majlis and is looking for space, give space to them to sit and welcome them. Do not be possessive of your space. If you gave space to them, then Allah will create space in your hearts, rizq, house and Jannah.  
17. If you were asked to move away from the way or get up from a seat to help the elderly or for some other reason, get up and do not take it personally. Allah will exalt your degrees in the aakhirat.  
18. If you happen to attend anyone's house and see a party going on, do not start asking why they didn't invite you. This is a very immature way to behave. 
19. Keep smiling and do not make a doughnut face that will switch off other people's mood.  
20. Try to talk to others based on their interests rather than bombarding all your interests on them. 
21. Do not ask others to get up from their seat to let yourself sit instead (as if the seat was named after you). Usually kids take up all the seats and do not leave space for Elders. The elders need to teach their children to give respect to elders. [Bukhari, Kitaab Al Adab: 6269]
22. Mothers need to control and keep a check on their children by not letting them do whatever they want and whenever they want. This is troublesome for others.
23. Maintain hygiene wherever you go especially in schools and educational gatherings, somehow someone has to stink. :S
24. Always leave your place of the Majlis clean and tidy. Do not create a bunch of mess and just leave it behind. This is Fasad and corruption which Allah has warned us about. This usually happens in Masjids, our own rooms and houses or at your dear best friend's house. :P
25. Try to sit in the company of more righteous people than those people who speak nothing but vulgar/cursing, useless speeches and doing childish immature acts because you are who you are friends with. 
26.  Do not interrupt when two people are having a private conversation and budge into them asking questions on what they were talking about. [Abu dawud, Kitab Al Adaab 4844]
27. Last but not the least, when you leave any majlis, do not leak any confidential information outside of that majlis nor twist or distort the information which might create Fasad. 

    

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Alhumdulillah, such are the etiquettes our Islam teaches us. 
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EID DAY AND ITS SUNNAH

On the Eid day

The following acts are sunnah on the day of Eidul- adha:
1. To wake up early in the morning.
2. To clean one's teeth with a miswak or brush
3. To take bath.
4. To put on one's best available clothes.
5. To use perfume.
6. Not to eat before the Eid prayer.
7. To recite the Takbir of Tashriq in a loud voice while going to the Eid prayer.


How to Perform Eid Prayers (Hanafi School)
The Eid prayer has two raka'at performed in the normal way, with the only addition of six Takbirs, three of them in the beginning of the first raka'ah, and three of them just before ruku' in the second raka'ah. The detailed way of performing the Eid prayer is as follows:
The Imam will begin the prayer without Adhan or iqamah. He will begin the prayer by reciting Takbir of Tahrimah (Allahu Akbar). 
In another narration, There are seven takbeerat in the first raka'h and five takbeerat in the second rakaáh. 

(Tirmidhi)

Khutbah: The Address of Eidul-Adha

In this salah of Eid, Khutbah is a sunnah and is delivered after the salah, unlike the salah of Jumu'ah where it is fard and is delivered before the salah. However, listening to the khutbah of Eid salah is wajib or necessary and must be listened to in perfect peace and silence.
It is a sunnah that the Imam begins the first Khutbah by reciting takbir (Allahu Akbar) nine times and the second Khutbah with reciting it seven times. Talking, eating or doing any kinds of other acts of disturbance during the khutbah is extremely disliked. This applies more for women and the children who attend the prayers and leave the mosque all dirty with food and tissues. Please avoid this kind of behavior.

EID MUBARAK EVERYONE. TAQABBAL ALLAHU MINNA WA MINKUM. AMEEN. 

HAVE A BLESSED EID AND HAVE A GREAT DAY AHEAD with good Halal MEAT!!! :D:D

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DHUL HIJJA REMINDER THAT MOST OF US DIDN'T KNOW

Among the special seasons of worship are the first ten days of Dhul Hijja, which Allah has preferred over all the other days of the year. 

Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allah be pleased with him and his father) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "There are no days in which righteous deeds are more beloved to Allah than these ten days." The people asked, "Not even jihad for the sake of Allah?" He said, "Not even jihad for the sake of Allah, except in the case of a man who went out to fight giving himself and his wealth up for the cause, and came back with nothing.” (Sahih Bukhari Book 15, Hadith 86)

  

RIGHTEOUS DEEDS TO DO IN THESE TEN DAYS:

•  Fasting during these days refers to the 1st of Dhul Hijjah through the 9th (the Day of Arafah), especially on the Day of Arafat (9^th). The fasting is for the ones who are not performing the Hajj. And the 10th day is Eid ul-Adha on which we do not fast.  Narrated Abu Qatadah, that the Messenger of Allah said, "Fasting on the Day of Arafah is an expiation (of the sins, by Allah) for two years, the year before it and the year following it," (Sahih Muslim).

                             

•  Takbir and Dhikr during these days are highly recommended. As Allah tells us, "And remember Allah in days appointed." which refers to these ten days. (Quran 2:20)
• Increase in these days Takbir (saying AllahuAkbar), Tahleel (saying La ila ha IllaAllah) and Tahmeed (saying Alhumdulillah)             

(Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest, there is no God but Allah and Allah is the Greatest, Allah is the Greatest and to Allah belongs all praises)

•  One should make Taubah (sincere repentance) and avoid disobedience and the rest of sins. Disobedience is the reason for our being far removed from Allah. On the other hand, obedience is what brings us closer to Allah and is the way of earning the love of Allah.
• We should do as many voluntary good deeds (Nawafil)
• Slaughtering and Sacrificing an Udhiya or Animal. 

                        

Those wanting to slaughter Udhiya (sacrifice), 30 Dhul Qaedah is your last chance before sunset to trim your mustache, clip your nails etc as the Prophet Muhammad (salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam) ordered us not to touch these things when the month of Dhul Hijjah begins. This applies only to the person paying for the sacrifice and has nothing to do with the other family members. Shaving the beard for men is forbidden through the whole year and not only restricted to these ten days!

One of the best words to recites in these days is 

"La ila ha illahu waH dahu laa shareeka lahu, Lahul mulku wala hul hamdu, wa huwa Alaa kulli Shay'In Qadeer"

IMPORTANT NOTE:

﴿فَلاَ تَظْلِمُواْ فِيهِنَّ أَنفُسَكُمْ﴾

(so wrong not yourselves therein) during these Sacred Months, for sin in them is worse than sin in other months. Likewise, sins in the Sacred City are written multiplied,

﴿وَمَن يُرِدْ فِيهِ بِإِلْحَادٍ بِظُلْمٍ نُّذِقْهُ مِنْ عَذَابٍ أَلِيمٍ﴾

(...and whoever inclines to evil actions therein (in Makkah) or to do wrong, him We shall cause to taste from a painful torment) ﴿22:25 
﴾Similarly, sin in general is worse during the Sacred Months `Ali bin Abi Talhah narrated that Ibn `Abbas said, Allah's statement)

Let us all benefit from this and start utilizing our time in these ten days. In sha Allah! 


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DO YOU TURN TO ALLAH ONLY AT TIMES OF TROUBLES?

According to the Surah Yunus Ayat 12, 
"Whenever affliction touches a man, he prays to Us, whether lying down on his side, sitting or standing. But as soon as We relieve his affliction (troubles), he walks away as if he had never prayed to Us for removing that affliction which had touched him!! Thus, the foul deeds which they do are made fair-seeming to the transgressors."

Are we turning to Allah only at the times of help? Are we praying salat, fasting and giving sadaqah when we are afflicted with pains and hardships? Is this act fair-seeming to us or Allah? Are we doing it right? No! This is the behaviour of the hypocrites of Ehle Makkah and the people of Phiraon!
Whenever any hardship used to befall upon the nation of Phiraon, they used to ask Musa alai Salam to pray to his Rabb (Allah) to remove the hardships from them and they will believe in Allah and follow Musa alai Salam If their hardships were removed from them. And when Allah removed calamity from them, they broke their promises and didn't change their acts of transgression. They did this many times until Allah fully destroyed the nation of Phiraon due to their false promises and weak/fake intentions.
We also behave like the worse of Phiraon's nation. We should never behave this way. We need to trust Allah at all times and hope for His mercy and His forgiveness.
All we hope and expect from Allah is the materialistic gain and pleasure of this world but none of us are actually hoping for Allah's mercy and forgiveness in their prayers.
The only relationship we have with Allah is when we are in need of something from this world.
Imagine a friend of yours who constantly turns to you when they need help from you and constantly disappoints you by forgetting you at the times when they are happy. How would you feel? This is the case. No one likes it. We call such people selfish, mean, using friend and a kind of friend who comes to you only when THEY need something. They simply don't care much about you. These people only care about their benefit, their happiness and their gain.
Allah has described this exact people in His glorious book.
Shaitaan has made this act of 'turning to Allah only for help' beautiful and fair-seeming. This is why most of us don't realise our mistakes because we think it's justified. Nay, they are nothing but Gaafil. They perceive not, nor do they take heed.

The thing we should learn from this aayat is that we should remember Allah at all times, whether we are young or old, happy or sad, rich or poor, hungry or full, busy or free, single or married, sitting or standing, morning and night. At all times!!!

A real mo'min is the one who is patient at hardships, thanks Allah at good times, remembers Allah (Dhikr) at all times, trusts Allah and accepts the decree of Allah with whatever destiny and fate He had chosen for us. Stop complaining and nagging. Do not long or hasten for a decision to be made. Be patient. 

"All good things come to those who wait."

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ARE YOU EAGERLY WAITING FOR YOUR PRAYERS TO BE ACCEPTED?

Are we all waiting for something better to come? Do we want our prayers to be accepted now without any patience?
According to the ayat of Surah Yunus Verse: 11
"If Allah were to hasten the punishment for their evil as they hasten in asking the good of this world, then the respite given to the people would have been terminated, but this is not Our way. We leave those people alone who do not entertain the hope of Meeting Us, to blunder about in their rebellion."

OMG!! Did you actually understand that! It gave me chills when I first read that verse! AstagfiraAllah!!
How often do we do this? Always hastening for our prayers to be accepted. Did you know that this is the way, the Mushrik of Ehle Makkah used to behave and nonetheless, The people of Firaon!!?
Do you want to be one of them?
Let me explain you this ayat.
Allah says in this ayat that If Allah had to hasten in punishing them (unbelievers) just like how they hasten in sinning, the matter would have been closed then and there, meaning not a single MAKHLOOQ (creation) would be alive. (because we all sin)

Just because Allah doesn't hasten in punishing us for our sins doesn't mean that the sins we do are justified that Allah is please with us. Nay, He ain't!! This is not Allah's way of Wisdom. He is The Planner of this Universe. He knows how to deal with the Mushrikeen and the Muh'sineeen! We don't need to expect Allah to hasten in accepting our duwas. Every Recompense has its appointed time. The good will come at a particular time and the punishment will ALSO come at a particular point. 
Those of us who enjoin in the good and are waiting for a reward from Allah, you shall definitely be brought to full justice on a particular time, may it be in this world or Aakhirat. 
And those who are living their lives happily, enjoying without looking at the halal or haram nor hardships befall upon them, do not think that Allah is pleased with them. Just because they don't hope to meet Allah, they wander blindly in this world doing whatever they want. Surely, an awaiting recompense is waiting upon them, May it be in this world or the Aakhirat!
Let us all learn from this. May Allah give us the Ilm to acquire the knowledge of our Deen and the ability to implement upon it.

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FAITH & TRUST IN ALLAH TO CURE ALL YOUR TROUBLES

Every single moment you rejoice is a moment of gratefulness, gratefulness to your Lord. It is the ajar (reward) of your patience that is rewarded with rejoice and happiness. Patience with expectations and hope gives us a life that is better and more beautiful because you Trust Allah more now. Many people face problems like Financial, relationship troubles, sickness, studies, jobs etc. To get rid of them, the first and the foremost thing every Muslim need to do is have strong faith in Allah. Trust in Him like you never trusted anyone before. That trust comes with some conditions. How can we believe that He is The One to answer all our prayers and cure all our problems?
First, You need to believe that He is the One and Only God and He has No partners. You need to beg of Him ALONE. Ask help from Him alone. No alive man, dead man, Jinn, any superstitious thing or belief can help us. And why will they? Did they create you in the first place? NO!
Whenever you have a problem or don't have a problem, your first thought should be that Allah is The One who will help me and He is The Greatest of All and The Able of Everything. 

Ways to Solve them:
1. According to the Ayat from surah Al- Baqarah, Verse: 153

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ اسْتَعِينُواْ بِالصَّبْرِ وَالصَّلاَةِ إِنَّ اللّهَ مَعَ الصَّابِرِينَ

O you who believe! seek assistance through patience and prayer; surely Allah is with the patient

The tafseer of this ayat shows us that we need to seek assistance from Allah by being Patient first and then by praying. So patience is the key to every success and problem.
2. To have a life which will satisfy you more is to make intention, strong intention, to get up at night and pray Tahajjud. Even though all my prayers get accepted Alhumdulillah, but the prayers of Tahajjud will speed up the acceptance process and the feeling of satisfaction will be undeniable. It is really good for those who don't have the resistance of waiting so much. The Tahajjud (night prayers) must be prayed secretively and not in the hope of someone seeing you pray. This is a very intimate matter and time between you and your Rabb. Also, never disclose anyone about your ibaadat. Hide your ibaadah as much as you can. These are the ways one can feel contended with oneself feeling that they have made Allah happy.
3. Try to zip up your mouth from complaining about your problems. The best way is to simply not talk about your problems with anyone until they have been solved by your Rabb. This is because it creates barriers between you and your process of Salvation. People are one of our biggest weakness and those people don't do much good. Only Allah does. So be with only those people who talk about Allah and are the most positive people of all. 
4. Recite and do morning and evening Dhikr. Those who don't do the evening and morning dhikr are considered to be Gaafil. These dhikr azkaar are very powerful and Allah keeps you safe throughout the day. Allah says, "Remember your Lord in yourself humbly and
fearfully, without loudness of voice, morning and evening (âsâl). Do not be
among the heedless," (7:205)
Once you try these things, I guarantee you that everything will be alright. Your Imaan will also have a boost and you will finally start living for Allah and not for people or this materialistic world. Those who live for Allah will have peace and those who live for this world will be dissolved in the sorrows and grief of this temporary life.

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1. What is your way of happiness?
2. Is there any advice you would like to add up to this article which has helped you the most?

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"DEALING WITH PEOPLE" SERIES- Part 2

Assalamualaikum! Ramadan Kareem to All the Muslims around the world! So Sorry for wishing late. 

How is Ramadan going on with you all? I hope its going great and I pray that Allah's blessings and mercy be on us this Ramadan and the months after it! Ameen.

Today the topic is Dealing with people. Last time I mentioned about "Dealing with people with patience and smiling." If you haven't read that please check it out.  

ACCORDING TO PEOPLE

Allah created all the human beings differently. No one is the same and you can't expect everyone to be the same. We all want to be friends with those who we have something in common with. That is very usual. But What about those people with whom we have nothing in common with or maybe somethings are common but majority is clashing with differences? How Do we deal with such people? 

We all know we have to be kind and polite with everyone. But the question is, are we? If we are not kind or polite with them, What is the reason behind it? Why do we behave the way we behave? InshaAllah we'll try to discuss it with some hadiths and Quranic verses.

The Main people we are not good to is our parents. Basically, because there is a generation gap and our thinking don't match with each other. We need to understand the fact that they are our parents. They have gone according to us their entire lives. Whatever we wanted they have given us not thinking about themselves much. They have sacrificed so much for us we can't even repay! We seriously need to understand that if we want to be good to them. Remember all the favors they have done for us so we always look at them with respect and obey them.

One of the things I learned is that once a person hits the age 50 or above, you can't change ANYONE! Not even your parents. And why should we? All of a sudden we have become righteous and now we want everyone to become perfect all of a sudden? Things don't work this way. We know how much patience improves life and all our matters. 

To deal with our parents, we need to go according to them. Not everything, but the things you know your parents might get angry or upset about. At least try to go according to their wish and their happiness even if it pierces you in the heart! Every child has to put some effort to make their parents be proud of them. Those kids are the one who always compromise their needs over their parents'. If you know your dad would be angry by serving him a cold tea, why do you take the risk? Make sure its hot. If you know your mom gets pissed by your dirty room, then don't! Why take the risk? 

Also do something from time to time to make them happy by doing something they like. Something charitable. Every good thing with a good intention is accepted by Allah. This is mainly for the daughters, because we have very limited time to fully obey them and make them happy. (By limited I don't mean you are gonna die but you'll be married soon and have your own family to look after)

There are some parents who constantly criticize their children. It could be on how you have always failed them, on how you dress or look, what you do ETC. All you got to do at that situation is to zip your mouth, don't back answer and just say what you think is right in a polite manner. I am not an expert in giving dialogues, you can figure that out. I know how much worse the situation would get if you back answered. Do not even roll eyes, act fearless, or stand unaffected by anything. This is misbehavior!!!

Abdullah RadiAllah anhu narrated: Allah's Messenger Sallalahu Alai hi wasallam said, "A momin is not the one who taunts, curses, speaks indecently or abuses others." [Ibn Jabaan, Kitaab Al Imaan: 192]

Some of us are very talented and have a great convincing power. That is a really blessed gift from Allah. One who has it must wisely use it! :)

Allah the Exalted says in Surah Al Zumur-Ayaat 10: "Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in full, without reckoning". 

Imagine, the reward will be given completely without even any questioning! What a great privilege that is!  SubhanaAllah!

These things are definitely very hard to do because some of us were not brought up like that. It is hard for me too to be good to everyone sometimes. Allah The Exalted says in Surah Al Baqarah: 83 "And Speak good to people".

We have friends who don't like certain things which we like and there is an individual opinion in it. Appreciate them for who they are and what they like. Same thing goes for siblings. You can't bombard all the things you like on them and force them to like it. Do not expect others to do things according to your mood or your life. You do it according to others. Don't worry about others constantly. Forget about what people are doing wrong. Think of what you are doing wrong. You can always advice politely. Its just human nature when some people have different opinions and views than you, they start contradicting with you. But Islam doesn't teach that. All Muslims have to accept the differences of their friends, relatives and siblings, get over it and treat them with justice because Allah made every soul differently.Not everyone is naturally similar to us. Just accept the facts and move on. 

Sometimes, making a big deal out of small things makes a big fuss. That is why majority of the divorces are on small silly issues like "she is not pretty", "He didn't buy me my favorite pair of shoes", "he watches t.v all the time and doesn't give me attention" ETC! Some couples are together even after all the biggest hardships ever faced. The best examples are our grandparents and our parents who are still together after all these years. mashaAllah! These are the real people who are patient and trust in Allah subhanAllah wa Ta'Allah to make their future better. 

Never argue unnecessarily (only if its important and you are 100% intellect about your argument) and be harsh to others. Aisha RadiAllah anha narrated: The Prophet Muhammad Sallalahu Alai hi wasallam said, "The most hated person near Allah is the most quarrelsome." [Bukhari, Kitaab Al Muzaalim: 2457]

Abdullah RadiAllah anhu narrated: The Prophet Muhammad Sallalahu alai hi wasallam said, "Abusing a Muslim is sinful and killing him is disbelief."[Bukhari, Kitaab Al Imaan:48]

One of the things I have learned most is what you say can never be taken back and it will be either a regret  or a joy for you. Most of the Arguments I've had were verbal and they were worse than physical. They are the most hurtful and irreversible. 

Sahl bin Saad RadiAllah anhu narrated: Allah's Messenger Sallalahu Alai hi wasallam said, "Whoever can guarantee what is between his two jaws (the tongue) and what is between his two legs (private parts), I guarantee Paradise for him". [Bukhari, Kitaab Al Riqaaq: 6474]

Let us try to become a better person and a better Muslim. Forgive, be kind, compromise, appreciate and smile. Intend to do it for the sake of Allah. If you do it sincerely keeping in mind that you are doing for Allah, most of our bad habits and manners will reduce inshaAllah! :)

JazakumuAllah hu khairan for reading. I hope this helps us all. 

Take care. 

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ARAB WEDDINGS

The only reason I'm writing this is because I attended two Arab weddings this month. And believe me, I am NOT pleased!

And I will try my best not to ever go there again. It's not like I hate it or anything but I don't approve of it either. Whatever I'm speaking about is not against Arab tradition or culture.

I attended an Arab wedding in Makkah yesterday, so I had to travel from Jeddah to Makkah while getting lost in the way. Basically, spending 2- 2.5 hours in the car with lots of troubles just to attend a wedding that was NOT worth it! 

The only problem I felt was the horrendously loud music and lateeeeeeeeeeeee DINNER. why? Because of LAAAATTEEEE entrance of the Bride!! AAHHH!!

First, let me talk about the music. I understand when people put up Hindi songs or even English songs besides the fact that they know its Haraam in Islam (I am trying to cut off music from my life as well) but Arabic songs are extremely noisy and creates trauma in many people and its FRUSTRATING!! The last wedding I remember was when they hired Singers to sing at their wedding. It was a complete nuisance and very uncomfortable for many people. It was so loud, I could even see some people  blocking their hearing passage just like me. Most of the people were irritated by the music and frustrated by waiting for the bride to come and the food to be served.  Do you know there are old women and men who need to eat food at proper time to take their medicines? I am not old but I had to take my medicines too. Who eats at 3 in the morning any way? At least I ate when it was sehri in Ramadan. 

Now about the LATE BRIDE....

Let me ask you something and I need some serious answers. What was the bride doing till 3 a.m.in the morning? Where was she? Was she cooking the dinner for the guests? Or was she dipping herself in makeup from 6 p.m till 3 a.m. I mean, I need a seriously, excusable, genuine reason that could convince me as an annoyed guest! For some reason I don't want to blame the  bride, cos the brides I met were annoyed as hell too! They couldn't even smile at me properly. Their faces were tired, they looked famished and drained. It looked like as if they wanted to run away from there as soon as they could. Who attends their own wedding late, frustrated and unhappy? What could the reason be? I understand the fact that people spend so much money, time and efforts in their weddings but what is the use when you show up at 3 a.m. at your own wedding and leave after 2 hours?? Do you how much a wedding hall in Jeddah costs for a day? And people spend their wedding in that hall only for a couple of hours. That's unacceptable.

I would never want my wedding to be like that. I want my wedding to be happy despite all the Extravagance, luxury and show off. I would want my guests to mingle up with me, have fun with me and leave happy by filling their tummies. (did that rhyme?)  In short, I want it to be a sunnah Wedding. inshaAllah! :D

What I feel is, as Muslims, we need to make sure all our guests return home happy and contended. I am never gonna keep my wedding after 12. It'll be over much before that. inshaAllah!!  I request all of you who are reading this, to think about this and start preparing from now itself of how your wedding should be like and NOT how you want it to be.

Also note the fact that weddings like this have inspired Indian and other weddings too. So don't let it take over you thinking that it's something cool and fun when its not! Maybe its just me or maybe its not. But this is just a waste of time and that's the fact!

I remind myself before I remind others.

Please comment the answers of these questions below:

1) Are all Arab weddings like this?

2) How would you want your wedding to be like?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4A5ubAXSbyU

Click the link for information about how weddings should actually be held Islamically. An eye-opener by Abu Mussab Wajdi Akkari.

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"DEALING WITH PEOPLE" SERIES- Part 1

PATIENCE AND SMILING

Allah The Exalted says "and speak good to the people" [Surah Baqarah verse:83]

Patience is necessary when it comes to dealing with people.

Some people may hurt you, betray you and not understand you when you explain them. But you have to deal with them with patience. 

Its just human nature when some people have different opinion and views than you, they start contradicting with you. But Islam doesn't teach that. All Muslims have to accept the differences of our friends, relatives and siblings, get over it and treat them with justice because Allah made every soul  differently. Just because your friend is talkative and you are quiet doesn't mean you need a new friend to meet your special "quiet" needs. That's just ridiculous. 

Nowadays, people are extremely choosy when it comes to friendship, marriage, some behaviors etc. when its comes to maintaining relationships. It not like picking up clothes, food or shoes of your choice. Its people we're talking about. We need to look and observe the hearts rather than looking at few picky annoying habits. If that would have been the case, we would have been loner by now. 

We, as Muslims need to treat our enemies with kindness so imagine how are we treating our parents, siblings and relatives?? Probably worse than enemies.

Jarir R.A narrated that the Prophet Muhammad (Peace and blessing be upon him) said,"He who is deprived of gentleness is deprived of goodness" [Sahih Muslim 6598]

Be good to those who are good to you and be good to those who aren't good to you. This is the Muslim positivity. That's because we aren't pleasing anyone, we are intending to please Allah!

So smile, as it is a sunnah! How many people can you smile at when you wake up today? Probably your whole house first. Just because you smiled, they will return you a smile and a circle of smile begins. Forgive constantly and forget it like it never happened. You will have a great feeling of positivity in your life and life wouldn't seem as horrible as it sounds like. 

"Spread the sunnah by your actions if people can't understand your speech" 

-Manal

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ASSALAMUALAIKUM!

OMG!

has it been a year since I was here last?

I cannot blv that!

Well, its about time that I did something interesting..

but its so much fun when u hear about someone after a long time and u have got so much to catch up with. So many things changed last year and this year.2011 was the worst year for me. So much struggles and problems. I kinda did what my blog inspires. Endured myself with Patience. And here I am!! I study in a well renowned Madrasa of Jeddah DarusSulaim. Its all Islamic studies. I am doing a Tafheem e deen course. I am gonna talk about that later. Together with, I am doing my Bachelors of Alternative Medicines. My first year is gonna end the next month. I am busy with work. I tutor primary student kids. So yea! thats what all has been going on with me. who cares, anyways! Thats a little update about me..

See ya all later with more informatve talks next time!

Stay tuned

(I sound like a news reporter because that's how I am talking in my mind right now)

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