A gift is a token of appreciation and love that you have for one another that you express it by giving gifts. Money shouldn't be made into a big issue when you want to surprise someone with a gift.
Every one of us should present our families, relative and friends once in a while with at least a simple gift. Doesn't matter how expensive or how extravagant the gift is. What matters is your intention to please your Rabb and make the latter happy and let them know that you care!
Hand made gifts are the most thoughtful presents of all. Most of us can't deny the fact that how kind and thoughtful they seem to be. If you can't afford to buy present, why don't we just make them? :D :D
There are several occasions or days when we happen to gift someone like Birthdays, Weddings, Anniversaries, Eid or Graduations etc. These are the formality type of gifts that the occasion demands off.
But giving someone a gift should never have a particular reason. Gifts can be give at any time of the year and at any time of the day and as many times a possible.
But there is something even better than this.
Narrtaed by Aisha RadiaAllah Anha: Allah's Messenger Sallalahu alaihi wasallam used to accept gifts and give something in return. [Book of Gifts, Sahih Bukhari 1160 ]
What a wonderful way to give and take love! Receive gifts but also do return. Some people feel that she/he is only giving me a present because I gave him/her so and become all judgy and fail to appreciate the gift. Let's not find ways to create a fight and fall into the traps of shaitaan.
Please do not be among those who simply love to receive gifts. You are rather creating a civil war in someone's heart or simply being rude! These are not mere rules but these are Akhlaq that our Islam teaches us how to create love in someone's heart to a greater extent. :)
NO NO's when giving a gift:
1. Do not leave a price tag on the gift. Intentionally or in ignorance. Please DO NOT do this. I have received few gifts in the past that had price tags on them and I really didn't know what it meant or what I was suppose to do with them. It kinda made me feel embarrassed and made me feel a little low towards that person. Please don't show someone how much you spent on them. It could be a silly mistake but be alert for next time.
2. Do not ever boast what you had to go through to buy the present or how branded it was. You either give a gift with respect or don't give it at all.
3. The worst of all of this is to TAKE BACK the gift. Narrated Ibn Abbas RadiAllah Anhu: The Prophet Sallalahu alaihi Wasallam said, "One who takes back his gift (which he has already given) is like a dog that swallows its vomits." [Book of Gifts, Sahih Bukhari 1162]
4. Do not expect something in return. Your intention needs to be cleared before you present someone with a gift. You are only doing it to please Allah AzWajal and to make the latter happy.
5. If you have more than one kid, do not gift only one child and leave the other empty handed. Be just to your kids. This will avoid all the envy and jealousy in the hearts of a sibling for one another. [Reference: Book of Gifts, Sahih Bukhari 1161]
6. Not only the husband but also the wife should gift her husband. It could be anything. Do not sit down and wait for your husband to gift you. Be a bigger and better lover and present him First! :D
7. Give a meaningful and useful present like educational or Islamic books, perfumes, a sweet appreciation letter, a thoughtful dinner etc. Personally, a gift that is not useful to me and is a decor item, I will fail to throw it one day because it wouldn't be of any use to me. A person can only have so much space in their homes. ;)
NO NO's OF receiving a gift:
1. Do not ever speak little of the gift.
Abu Hurairah narrated that Allah's Messenger (Sallalahu alaihi Wasallam) said: "O Muslim Women! None of you should look down upon the gift sent by her she-neighbour even if it were the trotters of the sheep (fleshless part of legs)." [Book Of Gifts: 1152 Sahih Bukhari]
2. Make sure you thank them for their effort and praise them but do not go over the top. It will only change their intentions to another destination.
Jabir bin Abdullah RadiAllah Anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah said,"Whoever is given a present and has means then he should give something in return and whoever has no means to do so, he should praise him. For whoever praises, he has indeed been grateful to him and whoever conceals it so, indeed he is ungrateful." [Book of Adab, Abu Dawud 4813]
3. Do not ever refuse a gift, may it be anything (if it's a haram item then you can). Specially, do not refuse to a perfume gift.
Anas RadiAllah Anhu narrated: Allah Messenger Sallalahu alaihi wasallam used not to reject the gifts of perfume." [Book of Gifts Sahih Bukhari 1159]
If you have some of your NO NO's in any of those categories, please do mention.
As for now, JazakumuAllah hu khairan for reading. Do share, comment and rate.
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Every one of us should present our families, relative and friends once in a while with at least a simple gift. Doesn't matter how expensive or how extravagant the gift is. What matters is your intention to please your Rabb and make the latter happy and let them know that you care!
Hand made gifts are the most thoughtful presents of all. Most of us can't deny the fact that how kind and thoughtful they seem to be. If you can't afford to buy present, why don't we just make them? :D :D
There are several occasions or days when we happen to gift someone like Birthdays, Weddings, Anniversaries, Eid or Graduations etc. These are the formality type of gifts that the occasion demands off.
But giving someone a gift should never have a particular reason. Gifts can be give at any time of the year and at any time of the day and as many times a possible.
But there is something even better than this.
Narrtaed by Aisha RadiaAllah Anha: Allah's Messenger Sallalahu alaihi wasallam used to accept gifts and give something in return. [Book of Gifts, Sahih Bukhari 1160 ]
Please do not be among those who simply love to receive gifts. You are rather creating a civil war in someone's heart or simply being rude! These are not mere rules but these are Akhlaq that our Islam teaches us how to create love in someone's heart to a greater extent. :)
NO NO's when giving a gift:
1. Do not leave a price tag on the gift. Intentionally or in ignorance. Please DO NOT do this. I have received few gifts in the past that had price tags on them and I really didn't know what it meant or what I was suppose to do with them. It kinda made me feel embarrassed and made me feel a little low towards that person. Please don't show someone how much you spent on them. It could be a silly mistake but be alert for next time.2. Do not ever boast what you had to go through to buy the present or how branded it was. You either give a gift with respect or don't give it at all.
3. The worst of all of this is to TAKE BACK the gift. Narrated Ibn Abbas RadiAllah Anhu: The Prophet Sallalahu alaihi Wasallam said, "One who takes back his gift (which he has already given) is like a dog that swallows its vomits." [Book of Gifts, Sahih Bukhari 1162]
5. If you have more than one kid, do not gift only one child and leave the other empty handed. Be just to your kids. This will avoid all the envy and jealousy in the hearts of a sibling for one another. [Reference: Book of Gifts, Sahih Bukhari 1161]
6. Not only the husband but also the wife should gift her husband. It could be anything. Do not sit down and wait for your husband to gift you. Be a bigger and better lover and present him First! :D
7. Give a meaningful and useful present like educational or Islamic books, perfumes, a sweet appreciation letter, a thoughtful dinner etc. Personally, a gift that is not useful to me and is a decor item, I will fail to throw it one day because it wouldn't be of any use to me. A person can only have so much space in their homes. ;) NO NO's OF receiving a gift:
1. Do not ever speak little of the gift.
Abu Hurairah narrated that Allah's Messenger (Sallalahu alaihi Wasallam) said: "O Muslim Women! None of you should look down upon the gift sent by her she-neighbour even if it were the trotters of the sheep (fleshless part of legs)." [Book Of Gifts: 1152 Sahih Bukhari]2. Make sure you thank them for their effort and praise them but do not go over the top. It will only change their intentions to another destination.
3. Do not ever refuse a gift, may it be anything (if it's a haram item then you can). Specially, do not refuse to a perfume gift. Anas RadiAllah Anhu narrated: Allah Messenger Sallalahu alaihi wasallam used not to reject the gifts of perfume." [Book of Gifts Sahih Bukhari 1159]
If you have some of your NO NO's in any of those categories, please do mention.
As for now, JazakumuAllah hu khairan for reading. Do share, comment and rate.
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