COMMON AKHLAQI PROBLEMS

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatuhu!

In today's world and society, we have become selfish, self-centered and quite egocentric due to the lack of attention and importance given to us. But this doesn't give us the right to behave recklessly or poorly with others. The fact that good and excellent manners will admit us into Paradise should not be fiddling in our lives. 

As Abu Umamah al-Bahili reports: that our beloved Prophet Muhammad Sallahu alaihi wasalam said: "I guarantee a house in the lower portion of Jannah for whoever gives up arguing even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Jannah for whoever gives up lying even if he is joking, and a house for in the highest level of Jannah for whoever perfects their akhlaq." [Abu Dawood]

So here we go,

COMMON AKHLAQI MISTAKES THAT WE ALL ARE GUILTY OF:

• speaking words of wisdom with anger and ill tone
• ordering that which you don't do it yourself
• judging others while not correcting or reforming your own self
• interrupting others whilst they are speaking
• not listening to what others have to say but always speaking your mind
• unnecessary questioning constantly
• speaking loudly to make other's voice subside and to make your point clear
• speaking singly for the entire audience without consulting them or thinking about them
• always talking into things with your perspective and not with the latter's
• always complaining, whining and crying over little things and making everybody negative
• exchanging glances at each other in order to make fun of somebody
• being sarcastic every single time
• commenting rude remarks directly at a person without caring about his/her feelings like you're fat, go get yourself a makeover etc.
• always praising or boasting your qualifications or authority in order to feel great among-st those who aren't as accomplished as you are
• leaving your mess for others to clean especially the bathrooms (why you no clean your bathrooms? :(( )
• using public property rashly and horribly without caring about others benefit
• not disposing your insanitary belongings and simply making others puke :&
• not taking care about the environment, like smoking cigarettes, throwing trash on the roads, grass and simply corrupting the land of Allah. Such a behavior shows that one doesn't care about their future generations
• not offering someone to share your food when others around you aren't eating
• not accepting food that somebody offers to you even if you DON'T like it
• forcing somebody to eat like a madman till there is no space left in their stomachs and their throats might explode
• chewing loudly and making horrendous noises while eating or drinking
• not maintaining self hygiene and troubling others with your odour
• looking like zombies at your homes and looking great outside of your homes (Yes! Your families have a right to see you properly dressed and groomed whereas strangers don't!)
• speaking loudly, or banging things whilst somebody might be sleeping, studying or even praying Salat
• not giving salams to any muslim stranger that passes by you let alone replying to their salams. Be the first one to give Salams. 
• Also, giving Salam just to one person  and not giving Salams to others sitting next to that person!
• nitpicking somebody's food directly without caring about their feelings
• nitpicking a present that somebody gave you
• criticizing somebody in front of everybody caring less that they are being humiliated
• bullying someone without even caring what they feel. Just being big-chested
• not smiling in return when somebody smiles at you (NOT APPLICABLE FOR OPPOSITE GENDERS :P)
• not making eye contact when speaking to somebody
• arriving late at somebody's house or institute when a fixed time was given to you. (except that you had a genuine excuse)
• arriving at somebody's house without informing them because "Oh! They are my family and friends, they must of course never mind" Don't do that please.
• waiting for the food to be served and then leave immediately (in simple words, coming to somebody's house just to eat)
• Not offering even a glass of water to someone who comes at your place
• leaving your guest's house so late that you regard it as your right. Please come and leave at a time that was given to you
• not remaining seated where you were asked to and simply moving around, peeping into people's stuff without their permission like opening drawers, checking out their books in the shelves and so on
• making a mess at your guests place
• leaving your kids to roam with full liberty and create mess at the guests' as they like. This is not a free ticket for a mother to have herself a break from her child!
• peeping into somebody's personal letters and conversations not remembering Allah is watching
• eavesdropping somebody's personal conversations through another phone line or by sticking your ear to the door.
• Speaking secretly in pairs when a third person is left out
• Walking with your chest out and neck high and not looking at people when they converse with you
• using other's belongings without their permission may it even be a pen or an eraser. It still counts!
• not returning people's belongings (amaanat) that you borrowed at a fixed time. It could even be some money that you lent from them
• always being busy for others who want to meet up with you. Not everyone is free, you see.
• walking recklessly and not to forget, pushing people from the way while running for your life
• suddenly stop walking in the middle of the way then create accidents behind you 
• not offering to help somebody when they are crying about their problems to you or they expect help from you
• always making promises but not fulfilling it
• sitting with a straight and arrogant posture in front of your elderly and not offering to help them in need like to give them your seat or to get them some water, etc.
• stamping your feet and slamming doors at your parents
• back answering and saying hurtful words in order to feel great about yourself especially with parents
• not turning your phone on silent in the masjid or in an educational institute
• some of the gross ones are to fart, burp, pick nose in front of everybody! :O
• and the worst of all, double parking in the middle of the road or behind somebody's cars and NOT caring about the commotion created on the road because of them! 

Remember, if a person cares about his neighbor, family or people more than himself, this is graded as utmost good (ehsaan). And this is what Allah loves. He loves Al-Muhsinoon. Care about others and you will get the same in return. Do not be a source of hatred in somebody's heart. Make others happy and you will make Allah happy which will make you happy and then everybody else will be happy :D :D :D :D :D in sha Allah!

This is a reminder for me first and then to others. Please mention some of the common akhlaqi problems that you face in your life which I didn't mention and let's make it stop altogether!

Jazakumullahu Khairan for reading! 

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